When High Achievement Leads to Anxiety: Supporting Students Preparing for College
As college application season approaches, many high school seniors feel the weight of expectations on their shoulders. For some students, especially high achievers, this time of year can bring intense anxiety. The pressure to perform well academically, excel in extracurriculars, and secure a spot at a competitive university can feel overwhelming.
While ambition and dedication can open doors, the constant drive to achieve can also create stress, exhaustion, and even burnout.
Understanding Performance Anxiety in Students
High-achieving students often set very high standards for themselves. These expectations may come from their own inner drive, their family, or the competitive environment they’re surrounded by. This can lead to:
Constant worry about grades, test scores, and applications
Difficulty relaxing or sleeping
Perfectionism—feeling like nothing is ever “good enough”
Fear of disappointing others
Loss of joy in learning or hobbies
For many students, anxiety isn’t just about one test or one essay—it’s a constant state of pressure.
Coping Mechanisms for Student Anxiety
The good news is there are practical ways students can manage this stress and approach the college process with greater balance:
Practice grounding and breathwork
Simple breathing techniques, like inhaling deeply for four counts and exhaling for six, can calm the nervous system and reduce racing thoughts.Break tasks into smaller steps
College applications and assignments can feel less overwhelming when broken down into manageable pieces.Challenge perfectionism
Remind yourself that progress matters more than perfection. One grade or one application does not define your worth.Maintain healthy routines
Regular sleep, balanced meals, and physical activity help the body cope with stress more effectively.Talk about it
Sharing fears and worries with a trusted adult, mentor, or therapist helps reduce the sense of carrying it all alone.
A Message for Parents
Parents may notice their child becoming more anxious or withdrawn during this season. Offering reassurance, listening without judgment, and reminding them that their value goes beyond accomplishments can help. Encouraging them to reach out for support when needed can make a big difference.
Moving Forward with Support
Anxiety during the college application process is common—but it doesn’t have to take over. With the right tools, students can approach this important season with resilience and balance.
At The Child & Family Therapy Place, Inc., I provide bilingual (English and Spanish), culturally sensitive therapy to help students and families navigate stress, anxiety, and life transitions with confidence.
If you or your student would like extra support during this time, please call me at 831-272-2041. Together, we can explore ways to manage anxiety and build coping strategies for a healthier, more balanced path forward. Learn more about my therapy services in California
